Dating - What did I learn?

Tips for growth from the lovely men I have met through Online dating in London

I'm not 22 anymore, "dress for where you want to be in life"  – Mr South Africa

Success isn't just luck, "work hard, get up early and achieve what you want in life."  Mr Harvard, Saatchi Man 

Ask for help, you don't have to do everything by yourself. -  “Englishman living in France”

"Focus and do less"  -  Saatchi Man

Do nothing…….. maybe one day. “Englishman living in France”

Sleep in every once in a while and recharge. Saatchi Man

Investing in New Zealand Honey is a smart move and helps with English hay fever. Mr NZ

What I learnt from them….

  • I can’t date someone who is basically looking for a mother to pick up after them. (when I want to be a mother, I will have kids)
  • I can’t date people who have an obsession with goats. (Only in London????, probably not I asked where are these apparent goats, Hampstead apparently)
  • I want to be with someone who will once in a while do brunch or drinks with my friends as well. (you don't have to drink alcohol)
  • No I don't eat dinner at 3.30 pm in the afternoon, I'm not 3 years old.
  • I can’t sit at dinner night after night in a Michelin star restaurant debating the difference in the coco bean types and the impact to the chocolate soufflé.
  • No weird stuff...... ???
  • If I don't take note of these lessons, then Icontinue to meet guys who remind me of them again and again, so fail fast, learn fast and succeed sooner.
  • Don't settle
  • And no I'm not that kind of girl who is just going to do what you say, good luck with that I'm sure you will find your someone, just accept that this is not me.
  • When you stop looking, then you find who you really need

Dating Part 2

So when I finally stopped trying to date in London, of course that was when I met him.

That person who I thought, wow he's amazing, who makes me smile even when we are so lost in translation all you can really do is laugh.

Because he’s not happy for the same reason, I’m not happy then it’s not an issue the issue is we just aren’t talking.

Yes, so I was meant to be being single, meant to be finding myself, meant to have X dates per week "with myself"  - not anyone else.  But he was just too amazing and too perfect, even his imperfections and the perfect ones for me and when I'm with him it’s just so fun, I feel like my flirty teenage self again, so I thought stuff it, I can't not at least try to ask him out and see where this goes.

Not going to lie, sometimes I can still be my pain in the butt teenage self again. And he definitely can be as well, but then I remember anyone who can't speak to me like that or isn't intelligent, have an amazing soul and see the magic in the world. Then I just won’t be into them and they won’t be into me.

They won’t be enough.

Life is about possibilities and glitter. (Magic)

 

So make time to do your nails (and add as much gillter as you can to your life)

Life Hacks

(1) Just don't keep chocolate in the house
(2) Exersise early in the day, then its done
(3) Keep Fruit and veg in easy access so you eat it, over shity food
(4) Have time each week to date yourself
(5) Don't spend tiem with people who don't belive in you and really its only becaue they don't belive in themselves - so they projecte that on to you as well.

- so run away now
(6) Scheulde time for art, or what ever your "yoga" is what is it that relaxes you